Real queens fix each others crowns

Let’s talk WOMEN. We are beautiful majestic complicated creations, but would be have it any other way?! I am a huge advocate of self-love and this includes empowering yourself and other women around you; friends, family and strangers.

In the 21st century women are literally like super women. We are fit, strong and healthy. We have big dreams, careers and empires we want to build. We also manage to be mothers, daughters, sisters, girlfriends, wives and friends. We all take on so many labels and responsibilities now, in which we are so grateful that the strong women before us have opened up all avenues and opportunities for us yet we all managed to literally do it all.

However, being a super woman can take its toll. We are not perfect, no one is. We are terrible at being our worst and most harsh critics to ourselves which in turns degrades how well we treat other women and the little ladies of our future.

There is so much comparing yourself to others, to un-realistic photos, to what women should look like, or what we should be doing. A lot of women don’t understand how being negative on themselves is causing them to treat other women in a way that makes others feel negative about themselves.

In your personal opinion, what should a woman look like? We can guarantee that all of your answers will be so different. Some may say, a woman should be a small figure, tall with blonde hair and blue eyes. Some may say curvy, with brown hair and big bust. But regardless of what size clothing you wear or what colour your hair, eyes and skin are, there is nothing sexier than a happy confident woman that loves the skin she’s in. We all know those types of women and how they draw people in around them. This is because everyone wants to naturally surround themselves with happy people as this makes them feel good!

Women are so bad at judging, not only themselves but other women. It’s really quite sad that most women see others as competition and attempt to bring them down instead of embracing and encouraging someone else beauty, confidence and intelligence. We should all be lifting each other up, empowering each other and inspiring each other. Life is not about who looks the best. Embrace who YOU are and walk into any room with confidence.

This is a long and hard journey to change but it’s doable. First, we need to be confident and happy with ourselves and what we have achieved. Below are some tips to love yourself;

- Enjoy taking care of yourself from the inside out, be conscious and mindful of the foods you put into your body and the effect they have on your hormones, energy and mind. This also goes for exercise just 30-45 minutes a day of light exercise such as a walk, swim or yoga is looking after your body and health. It is pretty hard to feel terrible in a body you are taking such great care of!

- Be SELFISH and take quiet time out for you, whether it’s reading, listening to music, meditating or watching your favourite show. Allowing rest time and relaxation is loving your body and mental health which is so important.

- Stop comparing yourself to women on social media. Girl anyone looks amazing with a tan, mani pedi, hair professionally done and makeup professionally done. There is no reason you can’t look like that just remember the time and professionals that have made those girls look that way. If you really strive to achieve that then educate yourselves on YouTube make-up and hair tutorials if that is what makes you feel confident and happy then do that, you do you boo (hehe, love that saying).

- Treat yourself every now and again, PLEASE stop feeling guilty for indulging or missing a gym sesh to veg on the couch alone or with company, or for eating that god damn Nutella! Okay? Promise!!

- Positive affirmations, it is true what the mind believes it achieves. Tell yourself every time you walk past a mirror something that you like about yourself. Your shiny hair, your gorgeous eyes, your great smile, your long legs, your greats boobs and booty whatever it is love yourself! The thing that you don’t like about yourself I guarantee someone else wishes they had.

- Finally Compliment other women, be sincere about it! NOW that’s a woman who is lifting up others and is confident in her own skin. And say THANK YOU when someone compliments you, whether they’re a woman or a man!

I surround myself with people who make me feel good and have a positive energy. Around friendships is on love, authentic kindness and honesty. Always lifting each other up, cheering each other on. There is always positivity towards each other. It’s so important that us women get together and help to change this so that we can all spread so much love.

So, to all of your beautiful gems out there, become part of this movement and start changing how women treat each other and themselves. Make a conscious effort to compliment random women you meet, whether it’s their clothes, shoes, makeup hair or smile it doesn’t matter. But see how great you will make that other women feel and in turn you will feel great also.

Danika x